Self Hypnosis Program

any suggestions how have successfully talk with woman?
It seems very difficult for me to have a conversation with a woman I met for the first time. I find 90% of the woman attractive , and many woman find me attractive as well, but for a minute of talking I unconsciously sense that the conversation will lead to sex and I start fantasizing me and her. I can't really think of anything funny to say and just have a very boring conversation without really thinking what I say, because I really can't think I am in some sort of fantasy and feel horny. Then I realize what I said and how I acted and feel so ashamed. I read a lot self-help books from david deangelo and listened to hypnosis programs.These books don't seem to address my issue , but they are helpful. Well hopefully somebody could offer me some good suggestions. I am glad I have asked this question from somebody and any advise will be good advise.
dude you need a lot more than self-help books lol